Going through a break-up is not anyone’s favorite activity. Sometimes though, life happens and we have to accept the hand we have been dealt or try to get them back. If a break-up is on the cards, the best way to get through it is to find productive ways we can improve ourselves, our lives, and our future love life. Handling a break-up in a healthy manner will allow you to reflect on your own actions and behaviors to avoid making the same choices in the future, especially if your behavior contributed to the demise of the relationship.
On the other hand, if your regrettable actions caused you to lose someone that you believe is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, there may be a way to get them back. This is not a step-by-step manual; instead, it is a series of ways for you to process the situation and jumpstart your ex’s feelings back so that this time around, your relationship will be healthier and happier.
Hold Up The Mirror
Relationships are mirrors. They force us to hold up a mirror to our behavior, thoughts, and actions so that we can reflect and evolve. This helps us gauge where our wounds lie, and where we can change. The conflict that can often arise within a relationship is not always a sign that it’s not working out or that there is incompatibility; it can often be that each other’s unresolved trauma is affecting how we show up in our relationships. One person’s unhealed pain can manifest within the relationship and show up as an anxious attachment style, neediness, or difficulty communicating.
Oftentimes, once the root cause of the issue is healed, it no longer becomes a problem within the relationship because you now have the tools to handle situations better. Of course, this means you will also need to commit to taking the steps needed to grow from your past trauma and learn how to overcome insecurities. Not everyone wants to take on the responsibility of healing because it’s painful and difficult; however, healing these wounds will give you a healthier outlook on relationships.
When you begin to work on yourself, you will identify where you may have gone wrong in the past and become the best version of yourself as a result. This may lead to a sincere apology to those you may have wronged as well as changed behavior. Your ex will then begin to sense the shift of energy from you if you are in contact. You may want to reach out and have a conversation about your realizations and insight into your own behavior which will help your ex understand your actions better too. Don’t worry too much about getting them to do the same, focus on your own journey first. If they are the right person, they too will want to invest time in themselves in order to be the best version for you.
Your Success Is Your Revenge
By focusing all your efforts on leveling up and achieving success, you clearly illustrate to your ex that you are doing well without them. As well as working on yourself mentally, focus on getting healthier, doing activities you love, and your career. You don’t want to opt for any obvious moves like posting thirst traps or plastering your dates all over social media to draw them back in as this can just make them angrier and put off. If you are interested in using jealousy to win them back, you need to be careful with how you handle this. It’s always best to focus on living a life that makes you happy. This will subtly hint at your carefree attitude and success and will trigger their jealousy in a healthy way as they see that you have made the necessary changes in your life. This will also help them see that they would like to be a part of it.
Invest In Yourself To Get Them Back
When you invest time and energy into yourself, you will see a huge shift in your life. The dynamics of your relationships will change, so you will become more magnetic and attract the things that you desire into your life. By investing in yourself, you let go of negative thought patterns and a mindset geared towards needing external validation. Letting go of needing validation from others will majorly affect the way that your ex sees you. A person who relies only on themselves for validation and affirmation is confident, content, and a happier person overall. Of course, you should not do this just to reignite your ex’s feelings for you, although this will happen, you should do this just for yourself.
Jumpstarting your ex’s feelings back involves stepping into your power and learning how to look after and validate yourself. It is from this place that you become magnetic and attract your ex back into your life because you are doing so much better. From this place you can also establish a healthier and better relationship than you previously had and you can watch you and your partner grow and flourish together.